The Momma Clan

Motherhood is a beautiful and never-ending journey, a phase that changes a woman’s life completely. People say that becoming a mother is the biggest blessing from God, and a woman’s life is considered complete only when she gives birth and brings her child into this world.

Carrying a life in your womb is definitely one of the most beautiful things in a woman’s life, and I totally agree with this as I myself am a mother of two beautiful kids and my life revolves around them, but don’t you think that motherhood should be a choice and not a compulsion?

What if a woman doesn’t want to experience this divine feeling? What if her body doesn’t allow her to be a mother? What if her delicate womb is not capable of holding a baby inside her? What if she doesn’t want to be called a mother and her choices are different?

Will she not be eligible to be called a woman?

There are women who don’t want to embrace motherhood by choice. People need to understand that time has changed a lot and women these days are more career-oriented. Before taking up the huge responsibility of taking care of a child, they want to focus on their career. Is there anything wrong with this? It’s a matter of choice and should be respected. Then why does society keep on pressuring them to be mothers?

There are a few women who want to embrace motherhood but cannot due to some complications or fertility issues. They undergo constant emotional and mental stress when repetitively questioned by their relatives. Do you think it’s right to keep on pressurising a woman for something which is totally not in her control, for something she is already struggling with? Can’t we console and normalise by saying that your health comes first, and the rest will come later?

Why is it that a newly wed woman is asked at every social gathering, “When are you planning to have a baby?”

Why is she never asked about her well-being or her career plans? Shouldn’t we compliment her for her rising career graph?

We need to understand that this motherly instinct should come naturally and not by force. No one should ever judge a woman for not choosing motherhood and also stop making weird allegations that they don’t want to have kids because they don’t want to ruin their figures and want to enjoy a stress-free life.

Today, when so many women are choosing to lead life on their own terms and don’t want to become mothers, why is society not ready to accept the change?

I request everyone to change the old mindset towards women. For God’s sake, please stop judging and stop putting women under constant pressure to accept everything. Stop shaming them for existing.

Friends, what are your views on this topic? Do you think a woman’s life is incomplete without motherhood, or do you think it should be her choice only? Do let me know through your comments.

Arti Mathur