The Momma Clan

Where are the women leading to nowadays?

I hate reading the newspaper nowadays or hearing the news on the radio or watching TV news. 

We have been hearing about the atrocities on women all these years, and many have fought for the rights of women, and the girls should be strong and stand for their rights  and so on. The men were projected as the worst.

Recently, horrible and unimaginable happenings to married men are heard almost each day.

Many girls marry for the money and torture their husbands mentally and ask for divorce and huge amount of alimony after a few years of marriage.

Many are killing their husbands brutally with the help of their ex-boyfriend.

No one can force a girl to marry now easily. Why not be bold if you are not willing to marry any man? If you have anyone else on your mind, be bold enough to tell your parents.

Usually a girl’s parents worry, ”We hope our girl will go to a good home after the marriage and not suffer.”

Now the boy’s parents are worried, “Will the girl coming home be good and adjust with their family and not trouble their son?”

Is it the purpose of educating the girls?

Stand up for yourself if needed.

Do not tolerate humiliation and abuse.

Be brave to ’speak out’ and do not suppress and suffer.

But taking bold steps like murdering their husbands is unimaginable.

A woman being burnt for dowry was the usual happening, but now it has turned over, and some boys are the sufferers.

Who is responsible?

Some may say, “ Aaj kal ka Movies etc.”

The fights between the parents spoil the young minds of their children.

Do we get to read good news happening anywhere in the world except War or any sad news of killing and chopping brutally into pieces and stuffing the pieces in a suitcase or a drum and cementing it. 

OMG! How gruesome such things can happen! Has mental stability gone to nuts? Why does the mindset grow so horrible to enact such rude killings? 

I just cannot imagine such thinking.

If the family members notice some unusual behaviour, they should consult a Counsellor before it leads to violent behaviour.

After an incident occurs, there’s no point in highlighting it in all the news channels, adding spice.

The case may go on for years, the parents and the relatives will be  interviewed, the tears and the protest procession will be taken out, and the people will slowly forget the incident . When another such incident happens, again the hue and cry goes on for some days and subsides. What is the solution then?

Punishing the culprit will not bring back their lives.

Should Counselling before the marriage help to some level?

Do not forcibly marry your daughters unless they go for a love marriage and are determined to marry their choice of a boy or a girl. Parents are helpless.

Arranged marriages are rarely seen now.

In conclusion, a marriage is a risk

and in any sort of marriage, if both do not have understanding and some give-and-take, it is difficult to move the marriage amicably.

Ego is also the cause of a marriage breaking up. 

One should be mentally prepared before plunging into the well of a married life.

It is not a joke or a game of cards. You throw a card, and if it does not match, quit and leave and act brutally and kill people.

Hope good sense prevails.

I am deeply hurt to read such brutal news. 

-Poornima  Sivaraman