The Momma Clan

This phrase, we hear since long years. But how many of us go into deep thinking about what is this about. Normally physical trauma is visible to everyone and they run to a doctor or to a hospital to get themselves cured.

Both women and men can go through emotional phases in their lives. 

In olden years during our great parents days, they lived in a big joint family and each had minimum six children and the siblings and cousins enjoyed themselves, played together.

During any function  in the family they did masti and bonded well.

In a big family at times the girls or the boys, the women or men maybe going through physical humiliation and ill treatment by family members which many were not able to express their agony to anyone at home or to anyone else.

They carry this emotional trauma life long and suffer silently which may lead them to the hospital and may need medication and if they were lucky, some come out of their health issues and some take a longer time. The family too has to go through bad phase.

The children moved to another destination for their studies or in search of work. The joint family reduced to smaller family.

Sheela was a newly married girl. She was from a large family and moved to Kolkatta after marriage. Her husband Ramesh was shocked to see her behaviour during night when he  noticed she was frightened and moved away looking at him pitiably. Ramesh allowed her to take time to the new life but how long? 

One day he asked her lovingly,  ” Please tell me why are you  not ready for married life?“

She cryingly narrated that horrifying incident when her uncle  misbehaved with her during her childhood which left a deep scar in her mind  and she was not able to come out of it easily.

He was an understanding person and told her , “It is ok , you take your time and I will not force you.”

He treated well and cared for her feelings and she started to love him and slowly they lived a normal healthy married life.

Imagine if Ramesh forced her what would be her mental condition.

A small boy did not want to go to his new school when their parents moved to a new place . At first they thought it was the case with all the kids to make an excuse not to go to school complaining of  stomach ache or so. When the parents talked about his teacher being nice and he would take care of him, he started his tantrum and refused to go to the school.

They decided to meet the teacher and know the reason. The teacher was a bit rude to them and started complaining about their son.

They were shocked and went to meet the Principal to enquire about the behaviour of that teacher.

He told them , ” I am getting complaints about him from the other parents also , I will look into the matter.”

Later they came to know the teacher misbehaved with the children by touching them awkwardly.

That teacher was dismissed and then that child started going to school happily. Imagine the emotional torture to those young kids.

The parents should listen to their children and ask their children not to hide any bad incidents to them.

Physical  diseases , a person visits a doctor  but for mental health many are hesitant to visit a doctor fearing the society terming as ‘ Mental problem.’

Both the health issues have to be taken care of as soon as possible.

Never neglect and take action before it is too late and one has to regret later.

Action taken timely, helps the person heal faster.

-Poornima Sivaraman