Hello everyone,
A couple of days back, we all woke up to shocking news.
Three sisters aged about 16, 14, and 12 jumped off the balcony of their house on the ninth floor of a building.
REASON—Parents are trying to stop them from online gaming, surfing, and digital over-obsession.
Initial reports suggest that they were addicted to some Korean games and were insanely attracted to Korean culture.
The notes in their diary also point towards the same, where the eldest of them has written that they’d prefer to die rather than revoke their love for Korean culture. Where they’ve asked for forgiveness from their parents while bidding them a final goodbye.
Some reports also point towards huge debts the family was in and the problems that they were facing, which may be one of the reasons for tensions gripping the family members, which the father is refuting.
According to him, though he is in debt, this has nothing to do with the suicide. He says that he just wanted to raise his daughters as Indians, whereas the girls wanted to adopt Korean culture.
Their diary also indicates their love for Korean culture and K-pop
Also, there are some witnesses revealing the fact that the girls had stopped going to school a long time back and scarcely went out. They were also never seen interacting with other children of the society in the park and mostly stayed indoors.
Some highlights that had constantly been ignored when they were alive.
There’s also an eyewitness who says that he saw weird movements just before the girls jumped off from his balcony and that looking at the scene it looked like one of them wasn’t willing to jump and was pushing them back.
The father and mother were also heard criticizing and blaming each other at the scene of the incident.
This particular family lived in a joint setting, and their father had married twice and had five children and was providing for the needs of all the members.
Some reports suggest that the father had a live-in partner also, who had died under suspicious circumstances in the same way by falling from the roof of their house in 2015. All these happenings cannot be brushed off just as coincidence.
This could be a major reason for something deep happening behind closed doors which is being missed…
PERHAPS…
The writings on walls, phrases such as—” I am very, very alone,” “make me a heart of broken”, etc….. etc…., using names taken from television shows rather than their own point towards withdrawal from realistic and social life.
References to physical punishment are also mentioned in their diary…. Where they have gone to the extent of writing that “death would be better for us than beatings.”
Then there’s the mention of early marriage, which the girls didn’t want to accept.
It all seems like total chaos and a fall of socially well-balanced life and settings.
In another incident, a girl from Kerala committed suicide after getting to know about her favourite Korean star’s passing away through Instagram.
Isn’t this something that one cannot even think about in dreams?
Letting go your life for someone you don’t even know, whom you’ve never seen and probably will never see in your life.
Isn’t this something really weird??
Something which feels like an alarming bell towards a danger…
…..—UNKNOWN and UNSEEN.
Was this an obsession towards a particular culture or lifestyle or an individual for that matter, or depression due to not being allowed the freedom to live life on preferred terms, or desolation due to being stuck up in a particular set of circumstances and not being allowed to cross that line of control??
OR
Aversion to reality???
OR something else much more dangerous, much deeper??
Was this ignorance towards what’s happening around us, or was this escapism???
Was this turning a blind eye towards the need to seek medical advice regarding mental illness due to shame or for saving that fake family honour ??
OR was this the wrong way of dealing with children belonging to a particular age group ??
Dealing with kids, children, and teenagers…. Let’s dive a bit deep…
Today, the STRESS is on keeping children STRESSFREE whether in schools or under competitive settings ???
And then when it comes to life testing them, these so-called emotionally well-groomed kids are failing miserably.
The number of deaths and suicides are increasing at an alarming rate and these are being linked to study, exam, competition, or work-related stress.
But why has the situation turned so grave…?
Don’t you all think it’s time to sit back and ponder, where have we gone wrong?
In the name of emotional well-being, we have crossed that thin line and are overpampering our kids, providing everything they desire and surrendering to all their demands whether logical or not, and in the process, bringing them up not as human beings but as delicate soft toys.
And then when they start crossing limits, we start forcing our advice and decisions on them, leading to unpleasant arguments as they have never been groomed to take advice rather have been technically declared independent.
In the process have we all not forgotten that life is not that rosy and it will definitely pose challenges whenever it feels like it, and those challenges could be as tough as walking barefoot on a bed of thorns??
Is this generation prepared for this??
In today’s tech-savvy world, where everything is available at the click of a key, these kids are left unsupervised in the name of freedom and liberal upbringing…
And this happens when they have yet not learnt to discern between right and wrong….
To top it all, in today’s nuclear family setup, it’s hard to find quality time to spend together and there are no Nani-Dadi tales and moral stories to guide them….
And then with the knowledge of computers and free access to mobiles, the kids and teenagers search for whatever they feel like using the information they get on t.v or various other channels that may or may not be meant for them.
To add to all this, grooming plays its part…
They don’t like being advised, explained, or corrected.
They take all this as interference…..
And then probably in most cases it gets too late before they get mentors….
In fact, most of the time, it becomes never, before being too late…..
Either lives are lost, or careers are ruined, or families are destroyed, leaving behind remorse and regret…
People awaken when such incidents make headlines, prime-time discussions take place, several corrective actions are suggested, and the internet gets flooded with pointers, opinions, red flags, views, to-dos, and not-to-dos.
And then again, a deep slumber and the same pattern of life until the next incident happens……….
Isn’t it?
So what do you think?
Isn’t it high time we all wake from this mesmerizing slumber, not to sleep again but to act before the situation turns into a Frankenstein ready to engulf the entire generation…??
What say, guys……??
The Momma Clan 
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