Parenting tips before deciding to be a parent: is it a must or a fad?
After childbirth, a woman may need some important care for her health and the child. This is a normal thing that one has seen or heard for many years.
The woman got her first child at the age of 14 in our great-grandmother’s time. Many were not educated, and they needed guidance. The girls were married at a very young age, and they were not allowed to think or decide on anything. So, in the gap of two years, they delivered a child in most of the houses; there were six children.
As the girls were educated, the marriageable age moved to 20 plus In our time in the 70s. After the girl graduated, the parents looked for a good groom and got her married. If there was no pressure from the families, some could delay their childbirth. It was the couple’s decision to delay being parents. But some couples had to listen to the brickbatting from their relatives. In our time in the 70s, most of our friends had two children or three maximum.
All sorts of people start telling their views to the couple about the problems of delaying childbirth without being asked for.
Later on, when the girls acquired higher education and were working women, they delayed their marriage beyond 28 to 30. They wanted to be financially independent and be strong mentally. In case they get married,
They think twice about starting a family.
The adults hesitate to question them about this matter.
A very delayed marriage causes a lot of trouble for the women during the conception and delivery time.
Not everyone, but in most cases, we read or hear the troubles and pain a woman goes through.
The joint family is vanishing, and the couple prefers to live in a single-family. Both working, they hardly find time for themselves, so how would they give time to the elders at home?
At times, one of the couples may be ready to start a family, but the other partner may want to delay, and arguments occur. Mental stress increases. The elders may advise them to consult a doctor and act accordingly. Go for counselling before taking the step to be a parent. The couple may agree or get offended. Why should anyone interfere in our life? Not able to decide for themselves, and due to their work pressure, they keep delaying and find themselves in a soup.
I feel there is nothing wrong with visiting a doctor and consulting them before plunging into parenting.
After the right age, around 23 to 26, to bear a child passes, some women face some physical trouble in conceiving and need special care. It would be good if they were under medical care.
In later years, the body goes through a lot of changes, and the tolerance level is low, so bringing up a child gets tough. If both the couple have a good understanding, they can manage well.
No one can blame any generation couple, as it is their life, and they only can decide what is good for them. Yes, their parents may not be able to give full justice in taking care of their grandkids, as they would be senior citizens, and they may not be able to run around with the kids.
If anything happens at the right time, one can enjoy life, bringing up their children would be easier, and they can enjoy life in their later years.
I agree parenting tips are a must when one decides to start a family.
These are my opinions. Many may defer.
The Momma Clan 
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