Do you feel angry? Why do you feel angry? We all lose our temper at some point or the other, but lingering to it for a long time is wrong. It spoils relationships and the environment around us. So whenever we get angry, we should pause for a while and calm down. Count 100 and cool down before you lose your temper.
Anger has many subordinates which trigger in us anger. They are Stubbornness, violence, ego, fear, jealousy, desires, hatred , complaining nature, false finding, etc. Let us examine their nature :
Stubbornness–
When we are stubborn and stick to what we think, we might lose temper on the other person. Our stubborn nature and attitude makes us lose temper, even if we are wrong. So to control temper, we must let go of our stubbornness and come down to the level of listening to others.
Violence–
If we have a violent and strict nature, we lose our temper.We may resort to mental and physical torture. We may slap or beat the other person.Hence , we must come to the level of kindness to forgo our violence and make kindness a habit.We must not use physical force under any circumstances, otherwise we may land up in trouble.
Ego-
When we are egoistic, we bring the I, me and myself into first consideration. We don’t like to say a “sorry” or a “thank you” because of our ego. Even richness and money power develops an ego in us, so we lose our temper. We see the other person as low. To control our temper, we must not have ego. We must be humble, down to earth and approachable, then we can become a better person.
Fear–
When we have fear of facing a difficult situation, we simply lose our temper on innocent people around us, always having fear at the back of the mind. Instead of losing temper, we must tell our problems out. Practice methods and ways on how to overcome our fear in the most reasonable way.
Jealousy-
Jealousy makes our temperament hot, and we lose our temper. Instead of getting jealous of someone’s success, we should put our own hardwork, will power and efforts to achieve success. We should not get jealous, if someone is better dressed than us, instead give them a complement.
Desires–
If we have too many unreachable desires , we get angry at ourselves, as we cannot achieve them. We may take wrong decisions to achieve unreachable desires. Instead have little desires, reachable targets, and always have a budget for yourself, then only you will get satisfaction in your life .
Hatred–
We should not have hatred for anyone in our life, even if the other person hates us. We must love the people all around us, so that we can lead a steady life without having feelings of hate, grudge and revenge. We must maintain our calm and be composed all the time, instead of getting angry.
Complaining nature-
We should not have a complaining nature or tell ill-will about anyone. If we tell ill- will or complain about others, we are having some kind of hatred and anger towards them. Instead, become their friends and start a new journey along with them of friendship.
False Finders-
There are people who always find fault with your work and lose their temper on your work, thinking only their way of doing work is right. You should use your patience and perseverance towards such people and explain them that what you did too, is right.
Hence, We should always try to control our temper, when we are about to lose our cool. If somebody loses their temper on us, we should not just keep crying and remembering it. We must forgive and let go. Everybody has the right to life a dignified life and fill it with the colours of love, knowledge, happiness and hard work. Accept your life with acceptance and smile, instead of anger and hatred!
The Momma Clan 
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